The three month hump?
They say that when you quit smoking all you need to do it make it over the 3-day hump and you’ll be fine. I think the same is true when you’re trying to be single, only it’s 3 months, not days.
It’s been about 2 months for me now. It seems that in the past, especially in the past year it’s always about now that I screw things up. For example Dylan and I would break up for about 1-2 months, then get back together. I think I see a pattern.
It’s not that I’m TRYING to be an idiot, but I do think deep down that I’m just scared to be alone. I want somebody to love and be loved in return. Not to say that just anyone will do, there are definitely people that I really do care about a lot. I really do think though, that it’s the alone part that gets to me.
I’m determined this time to do this for ME, because I care about myself and I’m putting myself first for once. I’m finally pulling my head out of my ass and getting into the game, living life! It’s going to be hard to break the habit of doing what I’m doing but it’ll be great when it’s done. :D
8 Responses to "The three month hump?"
Yup I was on bebedawl and martini lounge a little and also Paradise and XXX/Board X. :D
It’s quite scary once you become so comfortable with someone then break it off an try doing all that you did but only solo. I’m deathly afraid of being alone, and it’s something I know I need to let go of, stay strong! If u can do it, then any of us can too :)
Gurl if it is one thing that I learned about relationships from my first (and only so far) relationship with an older man who was like twenty years older than me -
Never put his ass before your own as no matter what you always come first. Men are so not worth the front seat as in the end it is always them who end up breaking your heart or leave you hurt and damage.
Live your life for yourself. Men can be very selfish especially when it comes to sexual desires and one thing I learned if it is not true love than get out of the relationship as soon as possible. If it is meant to be it will be but don’t go looking for ways or excuses to remain with a man who you know who is just not right for you or don’t go playing God with your own relationship and life. If the man is bad for you he is bad for you regardless. T
Take care of yourself first and foremost as you are more important than some dude who will probaly end up hurting you in the end. If it is true love you wouldn’t be doubting your relationship with the man so much as if it is true love you know without a doubt that it is meant to be.
Have a good one hun and I wish you all the best.
Good luck! I’m rooting for you.
Good luck hun :) You can do it
Everything you should do should be for you and nobody else. If you don’t do it for you, who’s going to do it for you?
Aww. Good luck girl :)
January 12, 2010 @ 9:01 PM UTC
Did you used to be on Bebedawl or perhaps Martini Lounge. Or maybe Paradise or XXX? You seem really familiar to me.